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If your significant other has started pulling away from, has become distant, stopped having sex with you, or has outright informed you they want to break up, you’re not as bad off as you think you are.

Couples fight, break up and get then get back together all the time.

If you’re in a position where your partner wants to break up, but you want to stay together, then the following relationship saving tips below, might just get you back in the saddle again.

Tips For Stopping Your Break Up or Lover’s Rejection:

1. If you were too clingy in your relationship, back off. Leave them alone, completely. Let them have their space, or the freedom they think they’ve been missing. They’ll soon become real curious as to why you backed off altogether, and will be drawn back to you to find out why. When they do call, or come back around, play it cool and agree with their position of wanting space. Acknowledge that you were too possessive and that you’ve realized that acting in such a manner was not only unhealthy to the relationship, but it was becoming unhealthy to you as well. When they begin to think you’re the one pulling away, watch how they magically want you back in their life again.

2. If you didn’t show enough emotion or caring in your relationship, do something surprising. Send them a genuinely touching message with some flowers, or in a card. The trick here is to be ‘genuine’. If they smell insincerity at all, your efforts will be wasted. Don’t make it too mushy or too long. Acknowledge that you realize how insensitive you were and reassure them that they are the most amazing person to ever step into your life. Once you send that message out, back off. Don’t call, don’t send another message, don’t stalk. Your partner will be curious why you disappeared and they’ll come calling for you soon enough.

3. If you were lazy in your relationship, you better figure that out and become un-lazy somehow. No one likes, or wants a lazy, unmotivated slob for a partner. If you’ve become overweight, unkept (appearance wise), don’t work, don’t help out in any capacity, or you were even lazy in the bedroom, be surprised they didn’t leave you before now. It’s in your best interest to get some straighten up in your life. The next time your partner calls, you better be doing something active and worthwhile. You need to shock them with whatever you’re doing now. You have to come across as different in their eyes, or else they’ll continue to see you as that lazy, unfortunate person they’ve come to despise and they’ll keep moving further away from you.

4. If you were too much of a go-getter in your relationship, take it down a notch when it comes to your partner. You may have pushed them too hard, too many times. Ease up on your partner, not everybody has a high level of drive and determination. The next time they call and want to know what you’re doing, make sure that you’re engaged in something low key, something you wouldn’t normally be thought of doing. Like tip #3, you need to shock partner so they get curious as to why you’re acting so differently now that they aren’t around. When they inquire as to why you’re doing what you’re doing, inform them that you realized what a pain in the rear you’ve been and you thought it was time to take it down a notch. They’ll become curious and you’ll see them come around again.

5. Sex. If you weren’t having too much of it, or you were trying to have too much of it, this is something else you better figure out. Sex is a huge part in every relationship, but sex is on a different level for each individual. If you were the one who didn’t want to have sex because you were never in the mood, you better go see a doctor and find out why. If you were trying to have sex all the time, understand that your partner may not be as motivated to have sex with you all the time, so it’s best you find out why. There are many reason why a partner doesn’t want to have sex and those reasons don’t always have to do with you. Become more understanding of your partners needs. If you want them back and want to keep them, pressuring is the last thing you want to do to them, especially with something as sensitive as sex. The next time you two get together, do the opposite of whatever you used to do. If you never wanted to have sex, you better get in the mood real fast and throw yourself erotically on to them. If you were too pushy in the past, don’t even bring it up. Let sex come naturally. If you genuinely love your partner, then you’ll feel compassionate about their feelings and act accordingly.

If you are in the early stages of a break up, let’s say, the past few days, even a week; then the following are a few tips that you must follow exactly, or else you’re dead in the water:

1. Stop communication. If you keep calling, texting, sending notes, contacting their friends and family, then you’re not giving them a chance to miss you. I realize it’s difficult and you feel like you’re going to die without them, but whatever you do, don’t contact them directly, or indirectly anymore until they initiate the contact with you. When they don’t hear from you anymore, they’re going to become real curious as to why.

2. Keep communication brief. When your partner does call again, keep the contact short. Don’t speak with them more than 10 minutes and then casually remove yourself to take another call, or because you simply have to go. You never want to come across as needy and insecure, so always appear to have something else going on. Don’t act, or come across as arrogant, angry or insecure. These displays of emotions are a turn off and will guarantee that your partner won’t call again for a long while.

3. Take time out. Stop feeling sorry for yourself long enough to responsibly understand why your partner wants to break up. What did you say or do that made them want to jump ship right now? How have you been acting over the course of the relationship, that might answer why they chose to leave. Once you can reasonably understand the main motive for the detachment, then you can construct a game plan to adjust your position and start implementing a new life strategy, that will be more appealing to your partner.

4. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. The last thing that is going to help you, is acting like a depressed little cry baby. Not to mention, if your partner got wind that you were laying around pouting over the break up, that will only empower them. Use this time to be free to do what you want. Believe me, I know depression, it makes you feel like death is the only way to feel better. However, depression won’t get your partner back. Only a healthy confident ‘you’, has the power to attract your lover back in to your life.

The only true test to know if your partner will come back to you, is time.

Let your significant other have as much time as they need without contacting them, smothering them or pressuring them.

The two worst things you can ever do to a lover, is pressuring them and stressing them out. No pressure. No stress. Live by those two things alone and you’ve mastered half of the relationship game.

Starting a relationship gives you someone to talk to; someone you can lean on when in times of trials; someone you can share your dreams with, and someone you can spend the rest of our life with.

A relationship is made up of two individuals who share the same hopes and dreams; a couple who fills up their own individual gaps with individual strengths and weaknesses. Building up a relationship requires tandem effort, and it eats up a lot of tandem effort. Maintaining a relationship needs not two individuals but only one vision made up by two unified, loving minds.

But after all is said and done, a relationship still ends up with two individuals with diverse lives and diverse characteristics. An individual’s needs are still different from another individual’s needs. Despite the closeness of a couple in a relationship, space is still needed for them to breathe and live as individuals with diverse needs and characteristics.

First of all, before you get into a relationship, you should have already established a lifestyle and characteristics that you cannot just leave behind and forget once you have committed yourself into loving someone. That someone also had a life of his or her own before you met him or her and he or she can’t just leave that life all at once just for the sake of getting into a relationship. What both individuals should do is give each other some space to still live their lives and do other things that were around them before they committed themselves to the relationship.

Space is a vital part of relationship’s maintaining power. Lack of space might lead to the suffocation of the individual; and a little after that, the death of the relationship.

Space is given for the individual who is in a relationship to still do things on his or her own; what clothes to wear, who to hang out with. Individual decisions should not be done by a couple, they should be done individually. Most relationships are subjected to bad endings because the individuals in a relationship tend to step on each other’s lives and tries to control them because they don’t like it; they end up deciding what should the other do, the other ends up becoming a slave, and the relationship is bound to fall off at any given time.

Space is also important for the privacy of an individual in a relationship. Privacy is also the main reason why relationships tend to get out of hand. It is important to remember that individual privacy is entirely different from the privacy within a relationship even though both are really important elements. Individual privacy is more of a person’s own space; a sanctuary within himself or herself; it is where he or she ponders on the things he or she has accomplished in life as an individual.

Space, along with enough time is also required for a relationship to strengthen itself up to an unbreakable extent wherein the individuals in that relationship are happy being together and are also happy being individuals who have their own breathing and thinking space.

Are you thinking about dumping your boyfriend but don’t know how to proceed without breaking his heart? If he’s a really nice fellow it can be hard breaking up but this article is just what you need to help you. It will show you how to break up with your boyfriend the kindest way.

For a start, you should pave the way for the break up by giving him subtle hints about the way you feel ahead of time. Don’t just tell him all of a sudden by saying something like “it’s over”. You have to take it nice and steady.

Begin by asking him questions such as “Do you still want to go out with me?” and “Do you fancy other girls?” Hint to him that there are plenty of other girls who would jump at the chance to date him even if you are no longer around.

Drop some hints when girls flirt with him.

If you know a girl who seems to like him a lot, drop a subtle hint about her. He will be flattered. Tell him that he’s the kind of guy that any girl would like to go out with. What you are really doing is conditioning him for life after you break up. It won’t be so difficult for him if he thinks that there are some girls out there for him.

Where and When Should You Tell Him?

One of the most important things in how to break up with your boyfriend is figuring out the right time and location to tell him. Whatever you do, make certain you pick a sensible place to do it. Can you imagine telling him you want to break up when he is driving his car? Or doing something dangerous?? The shock of it might seriously distract him!

You also have to think about what kind of person he is when you decide where to end your relationship. For instance, do you want to tell him in a public or private place? If he’s the sensitive type and easily upset, a private place may be more suitable to avoid embarrassing him.

However, if he’s the strong-minded type, telling him in a public place may make him think twice about making a scene. A location where plenty of people are around and where tears or scenes would be out of place may be your best option.

If you decide to tell him you want to end your relationship, in private, at his place or yours, think carefully about which one would be best. If you break it to him at his place, you should be able to leave when you’ve told him – unless he has an unpredictable personality. In that situation, make sure you are not completely alone when you tell him as he could do something silly.

If you break up at your place, it may be difficult to get him to go without an argument so it’s a sensible idea to have someone close to hand to give moral support to you.

Only you know your boyfriend well enough to ascertain which is the best time and place to tell him so make your decision accordingly.

Sever All Ties After A Break Up

Be prepared to give him back all of his stuff and ask him to return your things also. This is a clear sign that your relationship is really is over.

Once you have broken up with your boyfriend keep your distance for a while to allow the situation to calm down. Your relationship is finished, so don’t call him, text him, or make any attempt to run into him. And, don’t accept his phone calls or text messages either. Make it absolutely clear to your ex that you want a cooling-off period before you can talk as friends again.

Make sure he knows you mean it

Sadly, no matter how hard you try to spare his feelings, a boyfriend who still wants you might not take the break up easily. You have got to make him realize that you have thought long and hard about leaving him. He has to realize that this is what you really want to do, and that there is no going back on your decision.

Don’t be moved by his tears and take him back if you don’t really want to. You have to leave him if the relationship is not working out for you. You must be strong.

Breaking up with someone is never easy but that’s how to break up with your boyfriend.